3 Mental Phrases to Help You React More Rational When Your Irritated

These are phrases you need to ponder during that ‘pause’ when you step back from the heat of the moment

I used to piss off a lot of people whenever I try to make a point.

This happens because I had a tough time hiding my irritation in the heat of the moment. That irritation, when it leaks, often spirals a discussion into an intense (unnecessary) argument. This happens a lot with my partner, as well as with friends and family who have an unshakeable point of view.

As a result, I am more often seen as an “enemy” than a “friend”.

Of course, this behaviour did not help me build stronger relationships — it damaged them instead…

As per Joe Navarro (a nonverbal communication and body language expert), our feelings and our body are connected:

Said simply, our bodies suck at hiding our discomfort.

Now it makes sense why I’m able to trigger my partner to be angrier without saying a word. That’s because my body language reveals my discomfort whenever she says something I don’t fully agree with. The angrier she is, the less likely she’ll be open to hearing what I have to say and vice versa.

Misunderstandings happen because both sides are too emotionally triggered to listen.

When you’re emotionally triggered, everything sounds like noise.

We all know today how those senseless arguments you had in the past could’ve been…

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