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The lessons I learned thanks to my memory

Memories like thoughts have a habit of bubbling up when you least expect them.

Sometimes they arrive with no warning, fanfare, sparkles, glitter or announcement. They just materialise and steal you away from the present moment, occupying whatever capacity you have to reminisce and feel.

Occasionally they tease with what could be, but invariably they remind you of what was and is no longer in a physical sense accessible.

Sometimes memories can be a painful reminder, a replay of emotions and yet also an opportunity to process and maybe better understand the reasoning and cause of events.

Not all memories are accurate, granted. For example, I recently stumbled across the collective phenomenon called the Mandela effect*.

But often enough, because memories are personal, they serve as a way of bringing to light parts of our subconscious thinking and understanding of the world.

I can remember a little over seventeen years ago, a conversation with my wife, which I paraphrase, went something like this.

“Honey, you know I am getting older.”

“Yes, babes”

“Well, perhaps it’s time we should consider a second child.”

“Oh, but..” Followed by silence and a long list of excuses in my head of why practically and financially, right now, this was not a good idea. This was despite our pre-marital conversation about how many children we should have.

“Yes, well, I think..”

Finally, I remember saying, out of fear, something feeble like, “But I deeply love our eldest; how can I find the room for more love?”

The conversation ensued, and I remember thinking about the traumatic birth of our first son — me standing there, trying my best to be supportive yet excited, fearful, tired and attentive all at the same time.

Clearly, I wasn’t the one going through the pain and messiness of childbirth, but I was very aware of the…

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