My Ex was a Covert Narcissist. This is What it Was Like.

Pay attention. Don’t make the mistakes I made.

Covert narcissists could be as dangerous as overt narcissists. Overts are easier to spot, but coverts are subtle. Thus, it may take longer to realize that they’re manipulating you.

In that sense, you may end up intertwined in their spider web for a long time.

Here’s what it was like.

Six years ago, I was living in Thailand with a man who wasn’t good for me. He would assure me I was his girlfriend, but around friends and colleagues, I was his best friend.

It was confusing. I confronted him and he convinced me it was better this way.

“Best friends last, girlfriends don’t,” he said and I bought it.

I stuck with him for three years. On the streets, he refused to hold my hand. He gawked at girls and even chatted them up in front of me.

He didn’t acknowledge my birthday, withheld sex, and kicked me out of his apartment in the middle of the night in midst of an argument.

He would disappear without any warning. Naturally, I worried and wondered if I was at fault. A week later, he would show up at the door, unhinged, calling me a “worry wart.”

At first, I tried to talk it out, but the conversation always circled back to how I was too sensitive. “C’mon. I just needed a break. I don’t know why you’re making such a big deal.”

One day, we were walking home. He walked ahead of me as usual while I tried to catch up.

“So, what should we do over the holidays?” I asked, hoping to slow him down.

“Oh…um…that. I’m going to Korea to climb a mountain with my ol’ man,” he said glancing over to briefly make…

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