Get Sober Now

Quit fucking around — this is your life.

If you want to get sober, the time to do it is right now. There is no getting sober at some point in the future, after the next concert or party, victory or celebration, heartbreak or defeat. If you know with your whole body that the time has come for you to stop drinking, listen to it, and stop right now.

Pour out the alcohol you have in your house and never buy more. Avoid people and places that might make it harder for you to stay dry until you can confidently say that you’re safe from their influence. Seclude yourself for a little while if you have to. Turn off your phone. Read a book. Learn to sit still and observe your cravings until you can witness them pass away. Reach out to someone you can trust to support you in your abstinence and recovery. Go to a meeting. Do anything you need to do to keep yourself safe.

Getting sober may be the most important thing you’ve ever done, so prioritize and protect it. Know that this is a life or death situation. Remember that every day will be easier than the last.

2. If you’re questioning, that’s your answer.

If you’re thinking that you might need to give up drinking but still aren’t sure, consider the possibility that asking the question is itself a sign that the answer is yes. People who don’t have a problem with drinking usually don’t sit around asking themselves whether they need to get sober.

On the other hand, a lot of people who do have a problem and definitely should give it up waste way too much time — years, decades, entire lives — contemplating whether it’s really the right decision. If that sounds like you, stop circling around the question with your rationalizations, excuses, and vague resolutions for the future and cut the cord. Quit fucking around. Get sober now. This is your life.

And yes, I understand: You love drinking — even if, on a deeper level, you also hate it. Even if it hurts. And yes, I understand that giving up something you enjoy, or something you tell yourself you enjoy, is painful. But I can also tell you that the result of active addiction — being a person you can’t stand — is infinitely worse.

It took me a decade of being a person I hated to realize I couldn’t drink and still be a human being. I can’t get that time back, heal all those broken relationships or seize all those lost and wasted opportunities. If that…

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